Sunday, 19 January 2014

How To: Get A Better Attitude

Everything in life is a choice.  You have made the choice to read this because you are interested in how I did it or want to know if I say anything that can inspire/help you. It comes down to changing those voices in your head. I was brought up with a rather pessimistic view on life which I have now lifted and changed. It takes years to do. It’s not easy but if you want it/need it bad enough it’s possible. I think everyone needs a little of optimism in their lives.

As I have mentioned, I have feel-good quotes everywhere so that has helped immensely in this process. They’re good to have, because you never know when you’ll need them, when you’ll wake up and not want to carry on but be inspired to keep going by one of those ideas or thoughts.

Something I learned towards the end of last year is that putting off things is never good. I always ask myself: ‘What if I couldn’t do that? Ever again?’ And that makes me get on with the task at hand. I don’t know if these words scare you as much as they scare me, but if it was never possible to me again, at least I’ve done it. Life is not secure. You never know what could happen. So I intend to not put things off. If I can do them now, I’ll do them now.

You need to know that everything is changing, just like the cells of your body change yearly. So you’re not the same person you were a year or two ago, you are endlessly going through inevitable changes. Everything is changing, even if you go through the same routine every day you will find different barriers overhanging something. So though it may look the same, or feel the same, it’s not going to be the same. One thing that has always helped me is thinking that nothing will ever be like this again, so I appreciate what I can from a particular moment. Even if I do it every day, I make sure I gain from the experience. It’s like thoughts in the night: you know you probably won’t remember it in the morning so it’s your choice to get out of bed and write it down or just let it slide. I used to think that if it’s so inspired it will come back in the morning, but it hardly ever did. So I never go to bed without a pen and notepad within reach.

Another thing I do is I have messages from my friends which I found inspiring or heartfelt in a book by my bed. Either handwritten or printed out – it really doesn’t matter. I really admire my friends and it always makes me feel better. I read it sometimes just because, or when I’m having a rotten day it just lifts me up and makes me feel better. I know these people care about me because they’ve taken time to write me an email or actually handwritten something. It reinstates my faith in life.




  1. This has brought such a beaming smile to my face :D today Im feeling crappy and down but this is such a wonderful message thank you Steph today you have truly lifted my spirit and made me smile my ultimate favourite quote is by Martin Luther King Jr "The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." Whenever I read this it makes me think of times of hardship in the world and in my own life and allows me to think yeah I got through the Cancer and all this and Im still here living my life the best I can no matter what happens keep smiling XD

  2. Thank you for your comment lovely. That is an awesome message to believe in. =D xx