Wednesday, 26 June 2013

I have just felt like a stranger living in my body today...weird.

I bet you've heard this a million times 'When it's meant to be it will be.' But sometimes waiting around for something can get boring. So you go out and ty to make it happen. But don't force anything to happen. If it's meant to happen it will. Some people get (understandably) impatient when life is stuck in a rut of the same everyday, but this is the time to apreciate everything that you do have right now because it won't last forever.

If you're still waiting for something (whatever it may be) just hold onto the hope (fact) that it will be worth it. If you have  to wait for something it means it will be worth it when you find it. o always cling to the hope that it will be, anit means it will be good.

lt's worth it when you find it. to always cling to the hope that it will be, and it probably will be.

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lt's worth it when you find it. to always cling to the hope that it will be, and it probably will be.

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t probably will be.

Wednesday, 19 June 2013


I don’t know what to talk about this week….but I guess I’ll think of something. Flamboyancy. Was the first thing I thought of.  Everything has a right to act flamboyantly. It means to act in a way that may seem outrageous to other people. Because no one knows what you are going through. You may just need to act outlandishly. There’s no saying what other people are going through, so no one has  the right to judge them on prior to meeting them and understanding  them. You may never get to understand them. Because who knows? This could be their last day on Earth. So always think twice before judging someone.

There was a stranger on the street and my sister said: ‘Look at what she’s wearing!’

I might have said ‘Yeah’ or said nothing because even what people are wearing may be a sign we don’t have a right to judge. That’s what I think anyway. It’s how they feel at a particular moment and that may be right for them. It’s who they are and how they want to be portrayed. We have no right to judge that, unless they put themselves in the spotlight or ask us. Agree/disagree? Tell me what you are thinking!

 I don't tend to judge people on what  they are wearing , I like to get to know the person before assessing them. If I didn't, a lot of my friends wouldn't be my friends!

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Thursday, 13 June 2013

Review of Billy And Me

‘Billy & Me’ Review

Billy and Me’ is such a clever book with many unexpected twists and good timing. A beautiful love story with heart break and vulnerability to piece the tale together, I was invested in the main character, Sophie May, from the first page. The book is split into four segments with Sophie, her mum, Molly and Billy being the main characters throughout the story. It is an intense read that really had my heart thumping throughout with a dark twist towards the end of the book. But what I think was great was - that after the life-changing event that occurs -life continues which I think Gi has captured beautifully. ‘The Way We Were’ by Carrie Hope Fletcher (available on Itunes) came on randomly as I was reading the last few pages of this book and I think it was the perfect accompaniment to such a heartfelt story.  Never has a book made me catch my own breath so many times before. A wonderous love story that comes back to Earth with a bump. The back reads:

 ‘Sophie May has a secret. One she’s successfully kept for years. It’s meant that she’s had to give up her dreams of going to university and travelling the world to stay in her little village, living with her mum amd working in the little teashop.

 But then she meets the gorgeous Billy – an actor with ambitions to make it to the top. And when they fall in love, Sophie is whisked away from the comfort of her life into Billy’s glamourous – but ruthless – world.

 Their relationship throws Sophie right into the spotlight after years of shying away from attention. Can she handle the constant scrutiny that comes with being with Billy? And most of all, is she ready for her secret heartbreak to be discovered and shared with the nation? ‘

Intriguing until the last word, heartfelt and heart-warming: pick up a copy of the book ( and download the song (The Way We Were - Carrie Hope Fletcher) to see what I mean. See if you agree with me?

 The story reminds me of how self-obsessed we are as human beings. There is so much that happens in our lives but likewise in others. There’s a reason everyone does what they do and so, especially if we’re a stranger to a situation, we have no right to judge. We all live in our little bubbles until something big comes along and we realise, as Sophie does, just how selfish we can be. Everyone has their own story to tell and sometimes it’s good to just stop, take a step back and listen because we may miss out on the greatest times of our lives, while we are trying to create them.

Gi is a first time novelist, and when she sparks spectacular sparkles like these, I cannot wait to see what she has in store for the future.



Wednesday, 12 June 2013

Life is a series of experiences...

It was rather unfair but I do admit I was in a bit of a fowl mood and so someone close to me yelled at me that they’ve read my blog and it’s a lie: because apparently I say that with a smile everything will be better. That isn’t what I’m saying at all. A smile will make you feel better and you can start to assess the situation from there. Life is not easy. Time and time again it can feel like you’re climbing a mountain from the bottom; you’ve just got to take a deep breath and keep holding on. In the heat of the moment  it can be hard to remember this, but when it calms down and you can think about it try a smile on and see how that makes you feel. Whether it clears the situation so that you can look with a new perspective or not, you can whip one away as fast as you put it on. Also it’s a calorie killer. It may be a slow process if you just rely on smiles, but it’s at least something that can make you look fantastic and feel it too. Give it a try. You never know. It’s a good thing to get used to doing.


I saw a documentary on ‘The Twins That Share A Brain’ which made me stop and think. The troubles I face in this life are miniscule in comparison. It reminds me that everything is a gift. I know people face more troubles than I do, have more life-threatening situations concerning them and I was worried about what I was going to wear! It’s ridiculous when you think about it. Think about the last thing you complained about. I’m sure somewhere in this world there’s someone longing for that very thing you’re complaining about. I try to keep this in mind at all times, and therefore I don’t complain much. I just get on with it. And if it doesn’t work and it’s redoable, I will try again because I can. I have air in my lungs and the experience of what didn’t work from my last attempt. Of course, if it is a thing that I don’t get a second chance at, that’s the way life goes and I will learn from that experience. So I don’t lose out if I can help it.



Thursday, 6 June 2013

Man Hunt!

Sorry it’s a little late, I’ve been in hospital. Just a routine procedure, nothing to worry about. But I realised what it was like to miss out on an opportunity on Saturday. There was someone proper gorgeous at a gig I went to. I convinced myself that he never came in close enough range to talk, but that is hardly an excuse. I am disappointed in myself. We shared lustful looks but it’s not the same. If only I’d have known his name! And I could have. So, if this has taught me anything it’s: never let a chance go amiss. Now I’ll never see him again and we can just go back to living our lives, but don’t let a chance become a regret.

Can you help me? What gig was it? Chime For Change at Twickenham Stadium (which was unbelievable!) He came out twice into our disabled box to watch the acts.

He looks like:
so you can't blame me for wanting to find him! If anyone has details of a Danny Jones lookalike who works in Twickenham Stadium please let me know. Thank you.
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