Wednesday, 29 January 2014

'Strong Heart'

I wrote this lyric based on a dream I had. I still remember it whenever I see the lyric! It's basically about a superstar coming back down to the earth - his time had been, if that makes sense at all!e

Hope you like it anyway.


I saw you from across the room

You were sitting all alone

Guess the entourage is gone

I don’t mean to interrupt your stride

You’re looking at me like you wanna run and hide

It’s time to step away from the cameras

Welcome to real life



It’s not so easy

But it’s not too tough

Take it from me

I’ll say when enough’s enough

It’s not so easy

But it’s not so hard

Take it from me

You have a strong heart



I saw your eyes wandering to mine

The sparkles had all disappeared

But mine they’re still here

Cos I have learnt some things

If you don’t smile you can’t begin

To have a happy life or be yourself

So step away from the paparazzi

Love you before everyone else

(Repeat Chorus)


So oh-oh-oh

You see me take control

I am who I am

Don’t need no one to understand

Don’t be shy

Come outta the corner past the dimmed lights

And show me who you are

Show me your heart

(Repeat Chorus).


Copyright © 2011 Stephanie Carfrae. All Rights Reserved.

If you're interested in putting music to this lyric then please let me know in the comments or in an email to

Thanks for reading,



Monday, 27 January 2014

Quick one!

Just to let you know that I do now have a youtube account where I upload videos, because I thought it wasn't fair that you couldn't see the one who is writing all this! I have just uploaded my second Motivational Monday (which is quite a feat straight after How-To Sundays) and I would be honoured if you would check  that out.

The link is: and leave me comments on what you would like to see, what you want me to talk about etc. because it's quite different from writing it, saying it you can tell I actually mean it! Thank you for reading,



Sunday, 26 January 2014

How To: Wait And Not Give Up

Who’s standards are you living up to? If you’re trying for perfection please stop. You’re never going to reach it. What is perfection anyway? I’m sure it’s different to everyone. No one has the perfect circumstance for anything. We are all struggling, and I think we forget that sometimes. Even if it looks perfect from the outset; chances are it’s not underneath all the paperwork. Emotions might be running high, anger may seep out or mistakes have been made, to state just a few of the countless possibilities. Even anything that looks perfect is riddled with problems. Remember what you see on the surface is only the picture presented publicly. It may all be working out great for the people involved, yet often it is just a smoke screen you never get to see behind.

You may go through a stretch of calm in your life. But like a stretch it may not last long whereas on the other hand it could go on for years. Don’t get too comfortable though, by all means have fun and enjoy yourself but remember that life hurts everybody. Just appreciate the stretch of calm for what it is, however long it lasts. Things can change quickly, and they may never be the same again. A quote that makes me smile whenever I see it is: Smile: you’ll never get this moment again.

For instance, I had a good seven year run without any health issues, and the problem has flared up again this year during my last weeks at university which wasn’t great. But I am so thankful that my health had behaved for so long before that. Ok it wasn’t brilliant for it to flare up again, but I am lucky it hadn’t been a problem for all those years.

I know what it’s like to wait for something when you can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel. It’s hard, don’t get me wrong. I just did what I had to every day to live and keep my spirits up. It didn’t ever feel hopeless, though some days I didn’t want to wake up and I’ll admit it, could see no purpose in my life and wanted to die. But I kept strong and do you know why? Because of all my friends, just imagining they might have nowhere to turn when something went wrong in their life where they would normally turn to me. And after I started doing these How To Sundays I thought ‘Well, that’d just undermine everything I’m telling other people and hopefully am helping them to overcome.’ So I owe a thank you to my readers, without you I could have easily given up in these past few weeks.

I*f you have a suggestion for a How-To I could write, please email me at . Thanks. I want to help people, and if I can’t relate to it on a personal basis, I will try my best to research and find something positive about the situation. I ove writing these, knowing that something I say might help or inspire someone. Hopefully anyway!

Wednesday, 22 January 2014

Tonight Is The Night!

This lyric was inspired by David Archuleta's 'Crush' which I was listening to loads at the time! I hope you like it!




All I think about is you

Dunno what I’m ‘sposed to do

You have never seen me that way

But tonight that’s gonna change

No matter what they say

Nothing can tear me away



Tonight is the night

When I tell you you’re all that’s on my mind

Tonight is the night

When I can’t go on without you by my side

Tonight is the night

When I tell you that you’re my light

Tonight is the night

When I can’t do anything

Unless you’re by my side



All I dream about is you

Yes I’m gonna make this dream come true

You have never seen me like this

I tell ya in love is what this is

And I don’t care what they say

Nothing could tear me away

(Repeat Chorus)


So here we are

Just sitting here watching the stars

I reach for your fingers

There you let my hand linger

Cos I think we both know

That there’s a deeper connection in our souls

(Repeat Chorus).


Copyright © 2010 Stephanie Carfrae. All Rights Reserved.


Sunday, 19 January 2014

How To: Get A Better Attitude

Everything in life is a choice.  You have made the choice to read this because you are interested in how I did it or want to know if I say anything that can inspire/help you. It comes down to changing those voices in your head. I was brought up with a rather pessimistic view on life which I have now lifted and changed. It takes years to do. It’s not easy but if you want it/need it bad enough it’s possible. I think everyone needs a little of optimism in their lives.

As I have mentioned, I have feel-good quotes everywhere so that has helped immensely in this process. They’re good to have, because you never know when you’ll need them, when you’ll wake up and not want to carry on but be inspired to keep going by one of those ideas or thoughts.

Something I learned towards the end of last year is that putting off things is never good. I always ask myself: ‘What if I couldn’t do that? Ever again?’ And that makes me get on with the task at hand. I don’t know if these words scare you as much as they scare me, but if it was never possible to me again, at least I’ve done it. Life is not secure. You never know what could happen. So I intend to not put things off. If I can do them now, I’ll do them now.

You need to know that everything is changing, just like the cells of your body change yearly. So you’re not the same person you were a year or two ago, you are endlessly going through inevitable changes. Everything is changing, even if you go through the same routine every day you will find different barriers overhanging something. So though it may look the same, or feel the same, it’s not going to be the same. One thing that has always helped me is thinking that nothing will ever be like this again, so I appreciate what I can from a particular moment. Even if I do it every day, I make sure I gain from the experience. It’s like thoughts in the night: you know you probably won’t remember it in the morning so it’s your choice to get out of bed and write it down or just let it slide. I used to think that if it’s so inspired it will come back in the morning, but it hardly ever did. So I never go to bed without a pen and notepad within reach.

Another thing I do is I have messages from my friends which I found inspiring or heartfelt in a book by my bed. Either handwritten or printed out – it really doesn’t matter. I really admire my friends and it always makes me feel better. I read it sometimes just because, or when I’m having a rotten day it just lifts me up and makes me feel better. I know these people care about me because they’ve taken time to write me an email or actually handwritten something. It reinstates my faith in life.



Wednesday, 15 January 2014

Wish You Were Here!

This is a lyric I wrote in Malta when I was 16! Hope you like it!





I’m wishing, hoping, dreaming

Hoping, wishing, dreaming



What will it take?

For you to see this is making my heart ache

Being away from you

Is just about the toughest thing to do



This is the last time I’ll cry away from you

This is the last time I won’t know what to do



Dreaming of you

Wishing you were here too

Hoping somehow I’ll find you

Knowing you’re gone

For me this heart ache will go on and on

Hoping you hear this song

And maybe you shed a tear

For knowing I wish you were here



What will happen to me?

If you don’t see what you’re doing to me

You’re driving me mad crazy

Don’t let it scare you baby

(Repeat Bridge)

(Repeat Chorus)


I wish you were here

Right here right now

I’d know what to do somehow

I know I’ll find you wherever you are

I’ll just follow that Northern star

Follow my heart

To you

(Repeat Bridge)

(Repeat Chorus)

Oh whoa

Wishing, hoping, dreaming

You were here.


Copyright © 2010 Stephanie Carfrae. All Rights Reserved.


Ooh also, I nearly forgot  to mention my 2nd video is up on youtube! Check it out here:



Sunday, 12 January 2014

How To: Accept Yourself And Everything Else!

Nothing is going to change, unless you do. You need to accept that. I am currently stuck in my home, but I know this is only a temporary expenditure of my time, and soon I will be out, and I tell you, the world better be ready! I am thinking I may need to get lessons in social circumstances again, but I was told at a party recently that I still seemed pretty able to be social!

You need to let go of past mistakes and the past in general. It’s happened – there’s nothing you can do to change it – and why would you want to? It’s made you into this beautiful, strong person you are today. Don’t blame the past – because yes horrific things may have happened – but if you keep looking back you’ll miss out on where you are now. And ‘if only’ and ‘would have’, ‘should have’ or ‘could have’s are a waste of your energy that could potentially be spent making sure you don’t have any more ‘if only’s. So don’t waste anymore of your time in the past, you are here now and it’s the future you have control of. All your flaws – and we all have them – can’t be changed, can only made stronger by you getting to know how to use and control them to your advantage.

Let me take you back to the mirror. You know you can’t change your outward appearance (unless you’re super-rich) so all you can do is emphasis the best bits of your face whether that’s your smile or your eyes.  Try to make them the focus. The first thing people will see and remember you for! I went through a phase of Marilyn Monroe red lips that I have calmed down now, but at the time I made my lips the remembering feature on my face. Now I’m going back to my eyes.

I’m now ready to wipe away everything that happened in the past. I’m finally ready to accept that nothing happened in past relationships and it was mostly my fault every time. I know what I have done wrong in the past and am going to try my best to not repeat them. Past mistakes are only good if you can grow from them. That’s all they should be on your mind for. The past has been and gone, it’s only the future you have control over. Don’t waste it by looking back. You’re not going backwards in life, so stop looking there. It will get you nowhere.

Wednesday, 8 January 2014

Nothing To Say


Today I had the odd sensation of waking up to my own voice! It was pretty weird! My youtube channel was born yesterday: thanks if you check it out! Don’t fear asking me anything, as I put in the comment, I have even answered ‘How do you have a shower?’ when I was younger, so I’m used to weird questions!

‘Nothing To Say’ is the first song I wrote at uni four years ago. Whoa has it really been that long? It feels like yesterday. I remember having to go into the kitchen and show it to people almost instantly. Maybe I wanted to. I can’t  remember now.

 ’ve heard that artists feel things differently to ‘normal’ people. Like how they convey a message in their songs. A big part is through the lyrics. So do you think it’s true for lyricists too? What if I feel things I wouldn’t otherwise, if I wasn’t trying to be a lyricist?

 Just a thought that’s bothered me for a while.

Anyway, here it is, I hope you like it, let me know!

It’s called: NOTHING TO SAY



I’m waiting in the cold

For somebody to give my heart a home

Cos I can’t hold onto the pieces anymore

Cos they’re falling and shattering on the floor

There are just so many pieces for me to cling to

I just need someone with a willing heart someone like you



My heart breaks

As you walk away

And as you go I can’t think o’ nothing to say

My heart beat shakes

As you approach gotta get away

But I can’t think o’ nothing to say



I’m waiting in the dark

For someone to return to me their heart

My heart smashes into a thousand pieces

Every day every time you look my way

Cos I don’t know if you feel it too

Am I dreaming that I could be in love with someone like you?

(Repeat Chorus)


My heart is fragile

You might have to wait here a while

Til I know what’s going on

You see with me the signals have to be strong

Cos every time I look in your eyes

This feeling overwhelms me like butterflies

(Repeat Chorus).


Copyright © 2010 Stephanie Carfrae. All Rights Reserved.

Sunday, 5 January 2014

How To: Raise Your Opinion Of Yourself

I leave little post-it notes for myself to find with positive life-affirming quotes on them. It doesn’t seem like much. But I knew I’d have days when I had to reassure myself that life is worthwhile, and because it’s in my handwriting, I must have believed it on the day I wrote it. So that helps me to believe it when I read it.

Next step is to look in the mirror. Accept your imperfections. Which sounds easy – but isn’t – while you can use concealer to hide rashes or redness during the day – at the end of the day when it comes off, you still hate those bits about yourself. They are pieces of you and you should never be ashamed of that. If you didn’t have those imperfections, you wouldn’t be you and you would be no good at being anyone else. You are the best at being you, because no one knows the little turmoil you go through every day. No one else would be able to handle that. So please take one moment to look at yourself and be proud. Every human has an imperfection that they don’t to advertise, and just because yours is visible if it is, it’s not an excuse to feel bad about yourself. I, for instance, have really blotchy skin around my mouth, so when I go to apply a lipstick I have to be really careful.

So although everybody else may look perfect, there’s no saying how long the preparation to get to this point took them. Everybody hides something physically. Be it tiredness, a spot, a red mark etc. we all get them. Everybody has something that they don’t like about their outward appearance. And celebrities don’t always look that amazing; they are airbrushed to within an inch of their lives in photo shoots. And they always have their make-up artists on hand to touch up their make-up.

Going back to my idea of life-affirming quotations on stuff I use every day. I have one on the mirror in my room, a few on the mirror in my bathroom and a few dotted around on posters in my room. So I am always reminded, even unconsciously, of how special I am. And I don’t notice them anymore, they’ve become parts of my poster’s or mirrors. Someone asked me why I had them up there, and I really had to think about what they were asking about, because it’s become natural for me to see them there. These are just a few things that help me. I hope you have been inspired by what I have said. 
I hope this helps.

Thursday, 2 January 2014

Inspirational Five Minutes!

I was inspired by Carrie Hope Fletcher to do this! I think it's really beneficial!


The only one it missed off was
                                                              ©       Being Me!

Wednesday, 1 January 2014

Happy New Year!!

I hope you're having an awesome start to 2014!!

I can't wait for this yea to get many exciting things are happening - I'm going to get out of the house (I won't actually be out until after my 22nd birthday on the 10th Feb - Surrey County Council), I'm starting a job (once everything else is sorted - could be a long time) and hopefully will make friends outside of my family - my prison that I've been trapped in all my life.

It isn't a prison as such. I just feel it is. I've been tamed behind bars and it's time to release tem and unleash my potential on the world. It's so frustrating not being able to get out into the world - I have this to kep me occupied and books and DVDs but what happens when those run out? I'm so tired of fighting a battle and seeing no light at the end of the tunnel. I know I have to keep going and being strong but it is hard. And I know that everybody faces their own battles be it daily or once in a while, I'm in no way saying that my struggles are harder but it's just I feel like I'm a let-down to most people. I'm not saying this to make you feel sorry for me, that's the last thing I want, but I'm just telling you how I feel.

But everyone has something, I promise you. Something  that they hide or something that has transpired to work for them. Being a bit different and looking at it in a positive light instead of a negative one can do so much. If yon don't believe me, try it and prove me wrong. I didn't mean this to be anything but positive - look where I am now in comparison to last year! Sure, I was having more fun this time last year but I have now taken on new responsibilities which I couldn't have coped with last year. And I don't regret any one of them.

My support on here has also grown. This time last year I hadn't even written a proper blog let alone had readers. So, again my thanks go out to you sitting readin this right now. Without you, well, my life wouldn't be as beautiful as it is now.

 I hope everyone who reads this has a wonderful new year and hope all their wishes come true.