Make sufficient/productive use of your time. Realise that
the gift of time we have is only here once, and so don’t get trapped in things
that waste your talents or don’t make you happy. Time only gives when you’re
finding out what you want to do. From then on it gets shorter. Now a lot of
people don’t know what to do with their lives, many actually older people as
well. They have just trundled along never really fulfilling their livelihood.
Ways to not get caught in this trap: lots of realisations
about yourself (repetition is a great technique for believing these) and
believing that anything is possible. Realise that: Yes, you are beautiful; yes,
you can do whatever you set your mind to and somebody is always in a worse
position than you; nothing can stop you if you want it bad enough. I’m sure
there are many more, but to get you off the starting block!
You have to realise that although things may come to slow
down your transit into what you want to do; they are only slowing you down not
stopping you. Indefinitely. Things happen in our lives that are out of our control
sometimes. No one can help it when these circumstances occur.
The biggest realisation in my life has been that I am
enough. No matter what I do that’s the way it is. I am living up to no one’s
standards but my own. And I am not reaching for perfection. Perfection is never
something to reach for. If you did everything perfectly, and everything worked
out perfectly where would your stories come from? It may be a hard slog, you may be up against
one of life’s fiercest storms [metaphorically speaking] but things will work
out and sometimes it seems ineffectual to believe that, but you just have to to
keep going.
Stop comparing yourself to others. I know I have already
covered this but just to reiterate: no good can come from it. You don’t know
anyone else’s backstories so you don’t know how far they have come to get to
this point. Also don’t judge others for the same reason, and you’ll feel better
about yourself. It may be a slow process, but when you don’t judge others you
actually start setting more feasible standards for yourself. Because, no you
don’t have to look perfect 24 hours every day. Sure, it’s a nice goal to aim
for but far less feasible when you think about it. And since you can’t look
perfect 24.7 you can’t be happy and kind all the time either. You have to have
a balance. Moments of rage – which I release through noise (usually shouting)
and moments of recollected silence.
The main thing I have learnt over my 21 years of life is to:
be happy because you’re worth it. And because you don’t know if the sun will be
shining tomorrow but if you go out there (into the world) with a smile on your
face, well you just might make it peek out of the clouds.
Steph
XxX*
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